To Hell with Tradition

There’s no rule that says the President has to live in the White House full-time.

There’s no rule that says you can’t hire your kids as your White House Administration transition team who also run your blind trust.
There’s no rule that says you have to tell the press corp when and where you’re going.

There’s no rule against the President-elect using his Twitter account to complain about the press.

So I guess shaking things up means discarding tradition and not following the normal unwritten rules. It’s exactly what this country does not need.

My prediction? Well, there’s no rule against having a tiger in the White House as a pet…

I’m Still Angry So I Blame Donald Trump for Everything, Starting Now

Republican presidential candidate Donald Trump pumps his fist after a campaign speech, Monday, Nov. 7, 2016, in Sarasota, Fla. (AP Photo/Chris O'Meara)
Republican presidential candidate Donald Trump pumps his fist after a campaign speech, Monday, Nov. 7, 2016, in Sarasota, Fla. (AP Photo/Chris O’Meara)

I’m not handling things any better after the election of Donald Trump. In this podcast I tell the story of a dinner party where I didn’t fare well with a Trump supporter and learned about the upcoming New Civil War. I also explain why I have decided to blame Trump for ISIS and everything else starting now.

I also will go into Trump’s backpedaling, people who call other countries shitholes who just turned ours into one, my personal experience with Donald Trump, and my experience so far as a podcaster.

The Idiots Have Won – Life in TrumpLand Begins Now and We’re Screwed

Trump is President and We’re Fucked

In my very first podcast, I explain why Donald J. Trump is a buffoon and an existential threat to Planet Earth.

I also address the enraging appeasement from the left and the media, Trump’s first tweet to the nation, his first rumored cabinet members, and finally, my personal story about Obamacare and my moron Uncle Jim.

Fare Thee Well – Tales from Soldier Field

When I heard the rumors last spring about the Grateful Dead’s Fare Thee Well shows in Chicago, I was elated. Not because I love to see them play – because I hate festivals. Anyone who knows me has seen what happens to me in the sunlight. My fishbelly white skin reacts poorly and I sweat profusely. In fact, people have often looked at me in the summertime over the years and have asked, “Are you OK?” The problem with my undiagnosed sweat disorder is that typically I’m trying to look as cool as possible at outdoor summer events and instead I have pools of sweat collecting underneath my man-boobs. Here I am with my brothers and father after a casual day of golf. I’m the one with the sweat.

I am not OK

So the news of a stadium show in Chicago was good news to me. Sure, it was still going to be hot, but at least I could retreat to a hotel room during the days and overnight. Plus, I’m used to summer stadium shows from my experience in the late 80’s and early 90’s. In fact, seeing the Dead at RFK Stadium in 1990 like, defined my identity, man.

I was smart enough to reserve a hotel room months in advance and I was lucky enough to score tickets for all three nights through Ticketmaster. So on Thursday morning July 2, we made the relatively easy drive from Columbus, Ohio to Oprah City.

Bye bye, birdies

We stayed at the Club Quarters Hotel, and the first thing I enjoyed seeing there was the typical sight of the non-Deadhead hotel guest looking shell-shocked in the lobby. It always brings me great pleasure mixed with a tiny bit of pity when I see this. In Pittsburgh when we saw Furthur play (3/20/2011), sex columnist Dan Savage was staying in our hotel and he looked pretty upset about it. We rode in the elevator with him and he too had that shell-shocked look of the non-Deadhead trapped in Mars Hotel. I didn’t realize it was him until we left the elevator, and unfortunately I missed my chance to tell him, “It gets better.”

Another cool thing I saw in the hotel was a couple of dudes playing guitar in the front room. They were probably in a well-known Dead cover band because they were awesome. I sat on a bar stool beside them listening to “Jack Straw,” “Brown Eyed Women” and “Friend of the Devil” while watching the scene outside of the hotel through a plate-glass window. Man, I thought, this city is overrun with Deadheads. The two dudes beside me transitioned into “Uncle John’s Band” as a young couple, holding hands and smiling, wandered in and began dancing in front of them. I was home.

The first show of the three-night run was surreal. As we walked in they were handing out roses. I thought it was perfect for my fiance to carry around, but I was too manly to accept it. The bathroom scene was horrible as always and so were the beer lines. But the music was so well-played that the feeling that coursed through the audience was electric. “Passenger” was very well done and they played “The Wheel” better than I’ve heard it played since Jerry died, and I’ve heard it played a lot.

IMG_2422The second set was incredible too, warts and all (“Scarlet Begonias”>”Fire on the Mountain” had a few mistakes). This was a feeling that I had not experienced since the early 90’s, and not because I hadn’t seen great music played over the years by the surviving members. It was the mix of a giant stadium crowd, Trey Anastasio exceeding our realistic expectations, and the drummers. Those drummers. That’s not to say that the music was played flawlessly – but it was so joyful that we left pretty damn impressed.

By Saturday I realized that my inner thighs were probably going to catch on fire from all the walking I was doing. I began to waddle down the streets of downtown Chicago as I fetched ice from a Walgreen’s for the beer cooler.


We had learned on Friday that taxis could only get you so close to the venue – that no matter what, you were going to walk, and walk a lot. So I borrowed some Gold Bond powder and we tried to see a gathering of drummers at Millennium Park during the afternoon. But we were either too late or the event never happened, so we ended up at the most reliable place to eat, Miller’s Pub.

So many french fries to fill my belly

That night’s show was fantastic too. The fact that Trey pulled off singing “Standing On the Moon” pretty much solidified that he is the real deal; that he practiced a lot for the shows and took it seriously. He, along with a Core Four that seemed extremely well-oiled and the undeniable talents of Bruce Hornsby and Jeff Chimenti, reminded us what a Dead show felt like with that “Cumberland Blues” and “Deal” to close the first set. I couldn’t believe how well it all sounded, especially treats like “Lost Sailor”>”St. of Circumstance” which are arguably hard songs to pull off for a band that hasn’t played a lot together. It was all pretty mind-blowing. If you can get this cynical bastard to sing along with “Tennessee Jed”, then you’ve done it, gentlemen. Watching hippies stare at fireworks after the show was an added bonus too.

IMG_2439On Sunday, we sampled some Chicago deep dish pizza at Lou Malnati’s. This place was packed as expected, and while waiting in line I got to experience some of that Chicago-style pushiness from some jerkoff in one of those hats with a feather in it. Yes, he was probably not from Chicago, but still – can I please visit this city without running into some douchebag who doesn’t realize that Chicago is just a very large Toledo?

Already nauseous

Sunday was just as good as the previous two shows. On a tour, maybe a Sunday show could be a sleepy, slower performance, but this Sunday night happened to be the last time the members of the Grateful Dead would play together. The first part of the second set was stellar with that “Truckin'”, “Cassidy”, “Terrapin Station” and “Althea”. The “Touch of Grey” at the end of the show was about the time that about 30,000 Deadheads started to cry in the stadium. I thought that “Attics of My Life” was appropriate but depressing.

We left Soldier Field very satisfied. At this point my chafed inner thighs had become numb so I didn’t really care about them as we walked down Michigan Avenue. We watched a shirtless young man fall down drunk on the sidewalk by our feet and his friend looking irritated as he picked him up and demanded that he stand on his own. We ran into friends and discussed the shows as the cars sped by, honking their horns. We saw a strange old man with sunglasses and a pet goat standing silently in the grass beside the sidewalk. I started to take a photograph of him, but then realized that it was just another sight at a Dead show. No biggie.

It was such a great experience, and I consider myself very lucky to have gotten tickets to the Chicago shows. The webcasts were also very well-produced from what I experienced watching the Santa Clara shows from Levi Stadium too. I just read a story that the pay-per view totals for the 5 night run, including the Levi Stadium shows, was 400,000. And anyone who purchased those webcasts had a houseful of people watching, so it was probably way over a million viewers. Add that to the attendees in the stadiums – 151,650 at Levi Stadium and 210,283 at Soldier Field, and I’d say that we had ourselves a pretty good gathering of the vibes.

My Brother Met the President Today

I’ve been unable to really share how much I miss my sister-in-law Wendy, who passed away from breast cancer on May 18th at the age of 32, and who is survived by my brother Chris and their children, Caroline and Jack, ages 6 and 4.

There is just nothing I can put into words that does justice to Wendy’s memory and conveys the sense of loss that Wendy’s family and my family feels every day. I plan to write a piece in her memory someday, but right now I still can’t do it.

Sooo, I will go back to my comfort zone and tell you about something really, really awesome that the Obama Administration and President Barack Obama did today!

A month or two ago, Chris wrote the President a letter, telling him about Wendy’s story and how she was his biggest supporter. (There were many political discussions at our dinner table over the years – my poor Republican Dad was outnumbered and Wendy was a spitfire).

Well, yesterday, one of the President’s speechwriters called my brother and told him that the President wanted him to be his guest at the speech he made today in Columbus. So my brother brought my Mom, his kids, and Wendy’s sister-in-law Becca and her son Colin down to the event this morning. They were all seated in the front row behind the President, in front of all the other special guests – they got complete VIP treatment.

So a staffer comes up to Chris and says, “the President would like to meet you and your children.”Wendy Ward at the Obama Rally 2008

They bring him and the kids back to a room with about 15 people in it, including the Mayor, the Fire Chief, the Police Chief, the head of Ohio Democratic party, etc. Chris said he heard the staffers whispering, “save Chris Ward and his kids for the end of the line…” So each special guest is brought over to the President, and he shakes their hands, says a few words, and shuffles them off. Chris, Caroline, and Jack are saved for last and are brought over.

Chris said that the President shook his hand, put his other hand on top of Chris’s, and said, “Hello Chris. I was very moved by the letter that you wrote me. I’m very sorry for your loss, and I know you are having a tough time, but her memory lives on in these two beautiful children.”

So Chris introduces Caroline and Jack. The President told Jack that he admired his Spider Man shoes (we all do). Chris was told by a staffer that unlike everyone else who met the President, a different photographer (probably the White House photographer) would be taking the photo. As they waited, the President said, “After I read your letter, I was going to write you back. Then I realized that I was coming to Columbus, so I wanted to meet you in person instead.” The kids were given the Presidential M&M boxes, and they took the photo. Chris and the kids were brought back to their seats and after he made his speech, the President walked over to my family and said hello to all of them.

So, I thought I would share that story (as told to me by my brother) with everyone. Even though Chris, Caroline and Jack are struggling each day to go on without Wendy, at least, for one day, they got to think about how Wendy has touched so many lives, even the President’s.

I love and miss you Wendy, and OBAMA 2012!!!